Better is open rebuke 

than hidden love.

Wounds from a friend can be trusted.
~Proverbs 27

It's better to get in someone's face than watch them die. 

I'd rather you yell at me now, than have to ask you why you didn't tell me later.

I hope we remember.

Then gather regert for the things that I can't change now.

    The title is a line from the title track of Relient K's upcoming CD, forget and not slow down. However the point behind it that i mean to address is that we can't hound ourselves about things we cannot change, but neither should we hold back in such a way as to create regrets. I must admit these thoughts come from watching a movie where the man character holds back so much he never expresses his true feelings. He ruins his own happiness and that of one of his friends. It makes me rather frustrated, so that is what i share with you. Not my frustration, but the reminder that we should not hold back everything. There are times to hold back, and for very good reason. But there are also times when holding back is simply an awful thing to do.